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virtual-secrets: Week 457
· Lourdes Denimore ·
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Before we delve into secrets…
• If you hook up with a crazy in SL, it is not our responsibility to help you deal with that. If it becomes a RL issue contact law enforcement.
• Trust no one. If you tell people your laundry they will air it for you.
• Secret submissions are anonymous. We don’t know if your crazy ex or your abuela submitted them.
• Make your secrets legible.
• Do not contact us just to threaten us, especially with e-lawyers. We’ve been doing this for 12+ years. You are not the first nor will you be the last.
• Lastly, if the material submitted here triggers you, please get help. If the materials submitted here make you suicidal please see the suicide hotline numbers posted. They are there to help.
#3 Don’t y’all know how to use Maitreya’s alpha hud
Yeah I posted this secret, and obviously, I know how to use the alpha HUD. The issue is, I have a thicker shape. The skirt completely deforms because of my legs being so thick. My breasts are larger, as well, and clearly, this is not rigged to the breasts. I made my shape because it suits me. If I’m going to bother wearing a mesh body and a customized shape to look how I want, the clothing that claim to be for my body and therefore my shape (for the most part I understand some need to alpha or change because I am at the most extremes of some sliders) then they better work. Zenith is notions for not rigging to the body. They only rig bits and pieces where they find necessity, therefore, it is simply laziness. I have the other outfits from that gacha and they are fine. Also, this being the goddamn rare and not being fitted, is a shame. It’s not like the commons had a special need for the boobs to be rigged as they could be alpha’D out same as the rare. So we are left to either feel zenith can’t rig complicated meshes in fitted sizes (my guess honestly, they released a coat in standard size this winter that was pretty complicated) or they are just lazy. Either way I am DONE giving them my money. I shouldn’t have to become flat assed and flat chested every time I put something they make on, especially when they claim it is fitted to me body.
I’m well aware of the pain of rigging to maitreya. Been there, done that. But if you can’t rig to maitreya, then make it standard or just standard fit. Don’t half ass rig it to maitreya, leaving out half of the fit bones (the breast bones are actually easy as fuck to rig) and then call it maitreya fitted. It’s not.
Rigging for Maitreya is a pain in the ass! You cant make it fit properly without destroying the shape of the clothing. Please dont be mad on the creators, be mad on Maitreya for releasing a shitty dev kit.
The whole point of fitted mesh though, is that the clothing conforms to your personal shape. If, like in #3, items barely scale up with your body – then it may as well be standard sizing mesh.
It’s misleading to claim that clothing has been customized for a specific body, when you have to hide your shape to wear it.
Sure, it’s easy to criticize creators…and rigging/weighting for various mesh bodies (all with different kits of varying usability) is difficult and time consuming: but customers should feel they can buy with confidence if you’re putting the logo of a mesh body on their products.
#6 – I don’t think the poses are all that bad. The problem is the newer hands are all out of proportion. I liked my original Slink hands, but I hate the newer “Bento” versions. With every Bento hand I’ve looked at, the hands are either too big and look like man hands, or the fingers are much, much too long. Scale them down to more realistic proportions and no pose will make them look “stupid.”
The bento fingers all look like ET
Use your hand size slider. That’s what it’s there for.
17) This is actually pretty laughable, especially if you are aware of the fact that Lee and Jasmin are good friends. Lee posted about this very secret on her FB and guess who is in the thread, showing exactly how different the two heads are..yup, Jasmin. To the person who made this secret, deal with the petty jealousy that made you post this secret and get over yourself. If you are trying to pit one against the other, you utterly failed in your attempt.
https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=438671059833484&id=100010717818544
#5. It is sad that amidst the world of places like SL Secrets we lose sight of the back story. Zerkalo’s original creator passed away very young last year of cancer. His wife is trying to keep the brand and vision he loved alive as well as possible amidst this process of healing. Maybe stop and remember before you post things here that old saying “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”
I know what she has gone through as well as what happened to Daniel. I was part of the charity event in his honor to help both him and her, and I know that he passed away. That does NOT change the fact that the Arcade is supposed to be a high quality event, and the items displayed in this set literally look like they could be made with regular prims (teddy bear, table) or are just extremely low quality in general. I feel for this woman and what she went through, I do, however, I don’t find it right that this quality of item is allowed in when the Arcade boasts the highest quality items created by the best Second Life brands. Lets pretend Zerkalo was some other random brand and nothing from the past happened. This set would NEVER have been allowed at the Arcade. They’d have been removed immediately. Regardless of how I feel about what happened with that brand, I think the Arcade should maintain the same standards for everyone. If store A creates very good quality items, but along comes store B who creates extremely low quality items, store A should be the one getting that spot. Now, obviously there is no true store A fighting for a chance as the Arcade doesn’t allow that kind of thing, but either way. It seems more fair to me to remove store B until their quality meets the expectations not only of customers, but also the ridiculously high standards they hold everyone else in Second Life to who hope, pray, and dream of one day being “good enough” to be in the Arcade. Once store B has LEARNED and GROWN as a brand, then and only then should they be allowed back in. That’s the standard everyone… Read more »
I feel like everyone is just blasting that bear, but ignoring the table made out of three rectangle prims. That’s like, the sort of building you’d learn in a rp preschool.
Instead of complaining about how less of a quality her mesh looks like you could be kind and offer your help if you can do it better!
sauce?
#16 As someone who is relatively new to Second Life, I was mercifully ignorant of this “kink” for the bulk of my life. While I of course have since come to learn that this is not restricted just to the virtual world, it was not something that had ever crossed my path – which frankly, I’m happy about. To preface, I’m not one to “kink shame” – I have a realistic approach to the fact that people are going to like what they’re going to like. You can be into some fucked up shit, and hey – all the power in the world to you. At no stage would I consider all MY predilections as “normal” – I’m just as fucked up as everyone. However, I do draw the line at something that so clearly preys on and trivializes the concept of pedophilia. This is not a kink shame, this is a greater moral issue – with larger psychological concerns. At its core, the central tenets of “daddy dom/little girl” are objectively quite sweet – the focus on a loving, nurturing, teaching and guiding relationship that centers around the happiness of one party (in this case the “sub” – which is a whole other rant of a loosely-defined term that’s slapped on things nonsensically). Right on, and good work – I can honestly say that the dynamic of my relationship is similar. BUT. The seedy, creepy concept of a “daddy” and a “little girl” that’s thrown on top of it is where it becomes a red flag for me. Let’s not forget that historically (and not even historically, even NOW) – “daddy” is a term that people use for their father. When I was a kid I called my dad “daddy” – because I WAS 5 YEARS OLD and that’s… Read more »
Okay, so you claim that you’re no psychologist, but you feel comfortable labeling “every babygirl I’ve ever come across” as damaged. The attitude you have about the people who engage in this kink suggest that yes, you /are/ kink shaming and you don’t even realize it. The sort of people who can choose to engage in this kink doesn’t automatically mean they support or encourage pedophilia in any way, shape, or form. That’s akin to assuming people who are into or practice BDSM automatically support the torture of individuals against their own free will. That’s the rub, though. It’s a matter of free will here, where the Daddys and Babygirls in question are choosing to participate in the kink. The accouterments of the play are simply part of the scene, in as much as whips and chains or other more hardcore pain-inflicting implements can be part of the BDSM scene. No right-thinking person would dare inflict these things on somebody who was unwilling, but SL is full of damaged people and some of them are more than willing to perpetuate the damage no matter what form it manifests itself in. In short form, you’re encouraging the Slippery Slope fallacy of claiming that this kink is a short distance away from the practice of actual pedophilia when the same could be applied to just about any kink. Furries? Promoting beastiality. Food play? Promoting unhealthy eating behaviors. Through that sort of projection, kinks can even become slippery slopes into other kinks, meaning even the most vanilla of sexual play means that it will ultimately degrade into being about nonconsensual snuff sex with an underaged bound animal. Your diatribe honestly reminds me of the marijuana scare of the 50’s and how the “gateway drug” falsehood that sprung up from that had a stranglehold… Read more »
All these men that are into having this daddy sex, talking about baby parts and tight places need their accounts reported to LL immediately. A friend of mine reported a daddy and his whole conversation of enjoying his dick in a child’s bottom. I also will start reporting now as well. This kind of stuff is beyond adult activity or kink, and will shut the game down for good.
I know two men on SL who are daddys. Each has a babygirl, who they have looking like teenage avatars. Each babygirl ended up having daddys baby and Now these daddys are being sexual with the little baby/kid avatars. This is being a pedo and for the life of me I can’t understand how these women stay in these perverted pedo relationships.
Just because you associate yourself with Pedo’s Anonymous does not mean that every relationship that isn’t your thing is Pedo. Seriously. You do not need to look like a teenager to be into this scene. I am not personally in it, but I do have a little bit of child like quality to myself and I’m ok with that. I am an adult and I know what is right and what is HELL NO in second life. If you are seeing that horrible shit where children avi’s are used in ways that are illegal then AR it. Seriously do it.
Well, sorta Interesting and well researched. However, though I am not into “this” world at all, it seems like you miss a few points. No one is forcing the woman to cosplay this role in SL. Women wear it as they wish for allure and it’s quite widespread, especially in SL. If we assume it is consensual among two adults who wish to role play (not as a child but as a subservient who dresses “girly”) is that somehow worthy of classifying them as Pedo’s? While I think the pacifier is personally gross imho, cute kawaii cosplay is not a crime. Nor is being a furry. Or dressing like a hooker. I think you bring up in interesting discussion worthy of convo but in reality you are generalizing a great deal. K-Pop, J-Pop, just go to Shibuya on any weekend. People like cute. Boys like cute girls. Girls like being cute. Stop making it seem like a pedo thing and holding everyone else accountable for crimes that are not at all there or even close just because you have conservative values.
@Petra, I appreciate the back-and-forth; it’s a far cry from the outbursts that I expected, and that was the whole point of my original post – to spark conversation. I think this is an important topic to discuss. For the record, I have upvoted each of your comments as I appreciate the discussion. Your views are absolutely understood and taken into consideration, and there are things I agree on – you’re right, this shouldn’t be a witch hunt, and the aesthetic of someone’s clothing shouldn’t be an immediate qualifier of “hey, this person encourages and engages in sordid pedophile-esque activities” – because that’s not the truth at all. And let’s be clear here – this is targeted at “daddies” just as much as it is at “babygirls.” If I’m honest, I have more of an issue with the men involved in this type of scene or dynamic than I do with the women; not because “oh golly, women must be coerced into this and can’t make their own decisions” or any nonsense such as that – however because of the fact that encouraging someone to act like a “little girl” is so far from okay for me. I completely understand playing to your partner’s needs, however there is a line that needs to be drawn – if you want me to treat you like a little kid then I’m going to have issues with that for reasons I’ve already fully explained. This is not a condemnation of women who dress a certain way, or who say a certain thing. It’s a condemnation of a dynamic or kink that is played out to the fullest – both the women and men who partake in that. “Consenting adult” is a dangerous tightrope to walk on when we’re taking into consideration flow-on effects… Read more »
@Villian. You are totally smart and it’s nice to see here. And I do understand what you are saying but it’s dangerous in some ways to make what a woman chooses to wear as a sign of something that might be considered gross or, god forbid, illegal to some. I like to be cute. I happen to like brands like TSG and Katatonic for fun cosplay. And yes, I don’t mind saying “Daddy” as to give myself in that way which is a release for me. While you bring totally valid points in that it can (and I am sure does) cross the line you also risk creating a witch hunt to many who find a peace in being cute and submissive. I mean, it’s like saying that a woman who dresses in revealing clothing is encouraging rapists. And just like that if I sense a man is a rapist or a pedo I walk away…that’s the ease of SL and our ability to be at peace with ourselves.
I totally get how a line is there to be crossed but not sure I see your point in how cosplay and consensual kawaii aesthetics are about being “illegal?” “Vice squad”? For what? There are hundreds of shops in SL selling this look like Katatonic and TSG. I mean, this is starting to sound a lot like gender issues where you assume that a trans person is going to rape you in the bathroom. I like to look cute, No, I don’t use a pacifier (it’s stupid) but I also don’t need to be made to feel as if I am encouraging something gross just because I like to be cute and girly in a world that shuns it so much now.
With all due respect, I have the furthest thing from conservative values. I admitted at the beginning that MY kinks are off-center and not conservative by anyone’s standards. Unless by conservative values you mean “not feeling okay with girls roleplaying as children to be (as you say) alluring” then absolutely, sign me up to that fan club – I’ll throw a sign on my front lawn. I will concede – my experience in the realm is limited, and as such there are definitely generalisations included. But just like everyone else, I build my ideas and opinions based upon my experiences – just like you, and just like those that indulge in this type of “kink”. I also think there’s a stark contrast between cute a child-like, and I would agree with that; however not every “cute” outfit is inherently child-like. Having been to Shibuya and seeing the spectacle that is the fashion there, for sure – it’s crazy and cute and weird and quirky and fantastic. But at the same time, there’s also a big leap between wearing something and living out a dynamic. It does appear that babygirl-style clothing has formed its own “genre” within fashion, and again – all the power in the world to them. To be fair, I do wish the term “lolita” hadn’t become synonymous with it – Lolita was about an old man who was obsessed and driven to lust by a 12-year old. Just sayin’. However, and if it’s not clear let me make it clear now – I’m not speaking about those that simply wear the clothes. While sure, it’s not my style, I have no issues with you wearing whatever you want to wear. You do you, Second Life is the perfect platform for it, and shit – so is the… Read more »
Has nothing to do with conservative values. It has all to do with someone needed to be reported to a Vice unit. We don”t need pedos on SL
#3 I still have some issues with big designers fitting my body and It’s not even totally womanly.
#12 get electrolysis already!!! .
#18 are you looking for that pity train, that fucker left the station ages ago without you.
#19 Most of mine don’t know either
Blogotex is aware of this. That is one of the things they are working on. However to be honest most creators prefer to keep those bloggers on the list. Some of the reasons they were not accepted were we had too many bloggers. As bloggers quit we had applications on file to choose from and just add them to the group without them having to reapply. So some stores have found this feature really nice
#16 if your kink involves having a sexual arousal to anything that resembles a child (example: pacifier), that’s called pedophilia. When you dress up like a child to gain attention for these “daddies”, you’re encouraging this… and it can be really insulting to those that have experienced sexual abuse.
I am a babygirl submissive and no one would EVER mistake my rl self or my sl avi for a child. You need to learn the difference. a grown woman with a paci is not a child. DD/lg is about a consensual relationship between two ADULTS and has nothing to do with pedophilia. please educate yourself.
A pacifier yes….that’s crossing the line a lot. But a kawaii look that is about “cute?” Nah.
No one asked for your opinion, nor does anyone care what you think, you sanctimonious busybody. What happens between consenting adults using adult-bodied avatars is 100% not your business. Unless laws are violated or your body is involved, you can take your opinions about what they do and shove ’em.
In the criminal justice system, sexually based offenses are considered especially heinous. In Second Life, the dedicated detectives who investigate these vicious felonies are members of an elite squad known as the Special Victims Unit. These are their stories… [Dun Dun]…
Not all babygirls make themselves out to be children. I’ve seen some that made me do a double take though. I am not one for the pacifiers myself, but if they look like adults then so be it. That’s their kink and it’s not harming me. Sometimes you need to take a step back and realize that this is their life and as long as it’s two consenting adults then let it be as long as they aren’t actually playing children then AR that shit.
#9 True, even mine is that one :S
I LOVE IT cause it’s super customizable, but… you all are right. Not many beautiful big stores to choose between, at least not that i know of, and that one is so cute! So, when i saw everyone rezzed the same… I rezzed a different store building in the place i am moving my stuff to.
When a secret is right, i learn LOL
Hugs, people!
That build drives me insane. It was cute.. once! I absolutely don’t understand how creative designers can shame themselves by using such an overused build to house their beautiful creations. I’ve actually taken to leaving rather than shopping in it.
Also, no matter how cute and customizable it is, I find it to be one of the most frustrating and confusing store layouts I’ve ever had the misfortune to shop in. Rather than having a clean flow that allows you to easily move through and see everything there is to see, it breaks up into small rooms with multiple entry/exits and can lead you around in circles rather than a clear path that has a beginning and an end.
With all the talent there is out there, please folks, be more unique and find a new build, at the very least, find one that is a less frustrating shopping experience.
haha yes i totally understand, that’s why i got a new one
Sorry I posted that on your comment… I didn’t mean to sound snarky toward you personally. I’m just new to the forum and didn’t know how to start my own.
Good for you for finding something else! SL is all about creativity and expression. I love seeing all the unique creations out there.
I like that build, actually – for a HOUSE. Not so much for a store. It was interesting the first time I saw it, but after dozens of stores with the same build, it lost its appeal rather quickly. Can you imagine going into a real world store with all those tiny rooms? I’d lose my mind and most likely end up leaving without buying a thing, much like I do in SL, unless what I’m looking for happens to be in the foyer.
I much prefer my own store (and others like it) with huge, open spaces where you can see nearly everything on an entire floor from anywhere in the room.
YESS…I was thinking the same thing for #9 It’s like…ooh have I been here before, oh I know my way around this same damn building/store. I can name at least 5 all pretty big names with the same building.
Haha, yes! I chuckled when I saw this secret. My RL friend and I like to go shopping in SL together while on voice, and we always laugh every time we TP into a store using that build.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s a GORGEOUS building. I drooled over it when it first came out and considered buying it. But it’s so overused I wouldn’t touch it with a ten foot pole now.
9 is hilarious. And true.
The part that makes me laugh the most is how there’s an upstairs and nobody (okay, maybe a tiny margin) has the product to fill it. “My brand is original, my marketing is original.” Right. I rather go to a place like Magika…just in the middle of nowhere, than see that rubbish one more time.
Magika’s great for that.
Boom, here’s the product.
I posted just about this exact secret about a year ago and everyone was like “It’s just a prefab, stop complaining, get over it, you have too much time”. Glad to see everyone else finally coming around to being tired of it.
hahaha YES. I mean you don’t even have to wait for the building to rezz because you already know your way around!
10 & 11: Oh boy! I used to love MAW. It was a great place to hang out when I was feeling bad about how my avatar looked. Nothing like booty, bling, and bellies to give your self-confidence a boost.
#3: Rigging. Zenith isn’t the only one. I’ve seen some “prestigious” stores that can’t rig for shit. My avatar is not plump at all and the supposed Maitreya sizes cut through all sorts of body parts and you can see huge gaps between the fabric and the body.
#5: True dat. That’s just pure laziness. They’re a “sponsor” so they bribe their way in and toss up a gacha with content that couldn’t have taken 5 minutes to create (that bear? really? 50L?). There are a few Arcade designers who bring some creativity and hard work to the event, but on the whole this edition is boring AF. Enough with the damn harnesses and gladiator sandals. At least I know I won’t blow my Linden budget this round.
About #5 yes, yes, yes. I made the secret and while I’m not usually one to complain about who is in the arcade and what they make, when I saw that ad, I was in shock.
How the owners of the Arcade can allow that set in their event is laughable and quite honestly appalling. Have a bit of respect for your event. This designer is capable of making beautiful sets, so for them to allow this to pass their quality check is literally ridiculous.
I actually do know that. I took part in the charity event for him even. That doesn’t change the fact that Arcade should have quality control over what is released.
Even since his passing, Zerkalo has released better quality sets than this.
Nice try, though.
I think there’s something you ought to know about Zerkalo:
http://www.lovetodecoratesl.com/2016/11/01/condolences-for-daniel-estro/
I for one am happy to see that the brand lives on after Daniel’s passing.
I’m kinda looking forward to the Female head from Genesis labs, but I know I will end up with about 50 things I don’t want from that gacha before I get the head.
Haters who make secrets are too ashamed to post their name because nobody wants to be associated with their own ugly childish behaviour.
It’s easier to be a bitch then it is to be a caring genuine person who thinks about other people, everyones the victim in their own story.
my heart goes out to everyone that was attacked this week, it’s annoying to have your personal drama shared with the grid.
Get a clue- SL names are Not Real Names!
To be fair there was at least one person who legal changed there name to there SL name…so they could be? ha ha
Chainsword Audion’s real name is Myrtle Plisetsky, she lives at 45th la rue blvd in Louisiana and is the mother of three children.
ARE YOU SATISFIED NOW
not true mine has my name in it
and wtf do you think you are reading you dumb chimp??? the name of the site is sl SECRETS
don’t post your name…… you’re too ashamed and a bitch………
post your name…… you’d do anything for attention……….
damned if u do and damned if u dont with this roastie
oh I guess since you do it, that means everyone does it? I mean just by looking you up I’m not surprised you’d do anything for attention. Thanks for warning everyone that your a proud peice of shit, blocked.
#3 yes! that’s why i don’t buy her shit anymore…her rigging sucks!
#4 almost all of arcade is 75L a play now, wich REALLY sucks because its just too expensive…should be 50 MAX
#9 totally agree with that one, every store i go into anymore looks exactly the damn same
#4: This is where you’re wrong. I just took a moment to go through the guide for the Arcade.
2 sets are L$ 25
52 sets are L$ 50 (I added two here that did not have a price listed, but because those sellers did L$ 50 in the past)
36 sets are L$ 75 (I added one here that did not have a price listed, but because those sellers did L$ 75 in the past)
4 sets are L$ 100
So that’s not “almost all.” Maybe it’s just who you buy. Stores set their prices. Tell them to lower them. Or don’t by it.
#13.. Let play a game called, devils advocate…
It’s a blogotex flaw. Idk if you have had issues with applying before but, blogotex has a couple major flaws, and this is one of them. Of course I still think it’s a great service, it just needs some tweaks.
Once you have applied, your application is held. And no matter how often you reapply, it has it on record that you have been rejected.
The creators of the service need to fix this.. I hope that clears it up for you (the poster) and anyone else that has applied and been faced with rejection.
That’s exactly what I was thinking when I read this secret. As someone who has the manager functionality, let me tell you what happens… and the only way for us as Creators/Managers to fix it in this present moment.
Susie Q applies to be a blogger via Blogotex.
Creator or Manager is not too jazzed about them at this present moment.
Creator or Manager rejects the application.
Application is still kept on file within the system, in the “Rejected” section of the “Bloggers” tab.
Application will stay there, preventing Susie Q from applying again.
* Sometimes this can be a good thing, for rejected bloggers who like to spam the application.
The only way for Susie Q to apply again, would be for the Creator or Manager to go into the Rejected Section of the Bloggers tab and click the trash can icon next to that application, deleting them from their system completely. Then, if Susie Q wants to apply again, the system will treat them as though they’ve never applied before.
But here’s the kicker… there’s no checkbox system or anything to massively clear that Rejected section if you’re going to open up another blogger call. So, say you’re a larger brand and had 200 applications, took 50 bloggers. That’s 150 people that you INDIVIDUALLY have to permanently delete from your system with that trash can icon before you do another blogger call, to ensure that anyone who wants to apply has the opportunity.
It’s a flawed system, for sure, in certain ways. But overall, I like it. A few more tweaks with stuff like this, and I think it could be really amazing.
It’s easier make a secret than send a notecard to creator explaining the problem …you are so spiteful gurls
No one is putting a gun to your head, forcing you to pull that machine. If you don’t like it, don’t buy it. It will soon become obvious whether or not she’s making enough to cover booth rental at Arcade.
Seriously you guys do love yourselves don’t you, give it a break, if you can do better go for it. No one is making you buy it!!