Welcome to SLsecret, week 356.
· Lourdes Denimore ·
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Welcome to SLsecret, week 356.
Sometimes individuals in the family community can be so delusional in their fantasy world. There happens to be some people in it with good heads on their shoulders that realize they are adults in RL who become the objects of others jealousy. SL ISN’T REAL LIFE…all the rules and stipulations developed by the family community to remain in social graces with the rest of the community are as much fluid as your family is not biological. You can date who you want provided you don’t pixel bump with your child avies per TOS. You can move from family to family because you’re not family, you’re fantasy friends. You can act like you’re in high school because it is indeed the internet…but don’t expect the sane people to tolerate your BALONEY.
I feel the need to speak up. Since for one Salvy and Isa were my kids and I loved them dearly, it worked best for our family dynamics for my parents to become there parents instead of me staying there parent. They did not family hop, they just simply took there grandparents as there parents and I became there sister. They stayed in the same family! It was what worked best for our family a whole! As far as them being scammers pfftt never in a million years! They always purchased there own clothes, gacha items ect.. They NEVER once asked for a gift or for any of us to EVER buy them one thing, nor did they ever once ask for any money from any of us. Yes they went back to there godmomma who I might add had been there god momma before they ever came into our family. It was a choice they felt worked better for them, not only cause our parents needed to step away from SL for a bit to deal with some major RL issues going on with deaths in there family, but also due to the fact that there times worked out better with there godmomma then it was with our family. In the end they did what was best for them. No one should fault them for this it is what worked best for them and where they needed to be. As far as them being a RL couple well I know plenty of sl kids who’s RP partner is also there sibling. And everyone INCLUDING Salvy and Isa that I know of that are RL couples but choose to be SL siblings stays with in the family dynamics of being ONLY siblings. Not once did they EVER do anything inappropriate… Read more »
Screw all the drama shit ya’ll are spewing about 2 kid avies that are together in RL, a Flag that once united a nation then became the banner that almost tore it apart, or the copybotting skin store. Ain’t no-body got time for that, we wanna know what #2, and #3 are about.
Someone come on down here and spill the beans, open ears wish to hear.
#6 reactions… overreact much? confederacy is part of the American historic background. just cuz it offends you NOW doesn’t mean history can erased. it’s just meant as decor… nothing else. get over it.
are you a fucking idiot? Just because it was a part of history doesn’t mean that it needs to be glorified. That flag represents the Confederate south. It represents all the people who fought FOR slavery and oppression. If this flag is just a decoration then you must think the KKK hood is “just a costume”
I can’t believe there are idiots like you that still exist in this generation
Congrats, you just won the Worst Comment of the Week award! \o/
Seriously, what rock do you live under?! Am I the only one who remembers just a couple years ago when the President was reelected and several states wanted to secede from the Union? And just LAST WEEK, a sick young man murdered nine innocent people in their church after brainwashing himself into extreme racism. This isn’t speculation, he wrote a manifesto explicitly stating as much. Read about it here – http://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2015/jun/20/fbi-investigates-website-manifesto-charleston-shooting-suspect-dylann-roof
A particularly relevant excerpt, emphasis added:
“The website, which is filled with offensive racist diatribe, also contains 60 photographs, 34 of which are of Roof. In one picture, he is shown burning an American flag. In four others, he is either holding or surrounded by the CONFEDERATE FLAG.”
If you think this is merely ancient history, you’ve also won the Most Deluded award.
PS he had confederate plates on his car, that’s one of the things that tipped off the citizen that ended up reporting him to the police, leading to his arrest. The flag is clearly symbolic to anyone with intelligence and compassion.
(This is not directed at non-Americans.)
Yeah, total over reaction, that’s why Mississippi and South Carolina and currently in the process of removing any connection of the confederate flag from their state. Not an over reaction at all, you ignorant person. The only thing sadder than people like you defending something you know nothing about, nor even care about, is the fact that it took this long to get rid of that disgusting flag.
http://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2015/jun/23/mississippi-confederate-flag-consider-dropping-emblem
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/south-carolina-confederate-flag-debate-state-rep-doug-brannon-bill-to-remove-flag/
Oh by the way, even the most redneck store in the country just decided to stop selling anything with the confederate flag on it. Does it really feel good to be on the wrong side of history?
http://www.cnn.com/2015/06/22/politics/confederate-flag-walmart-south-carolina/index.html
This is not a defence. If you are doing historical reenactments in denim shorts you are doing it very, very wrong.
secrets are becoming not so secret with everyone being able to actually post the SL personal information of the subjects of the secrets! make it a little more mysterious, my god! this is mostly in reference to secret #1. do you not think these people won’t be harassed by strangers now who think they are doing some kinky incest stuff?
The Confederate flag is a sign of treason. The only thing it symbolizes is the south declaring war on it’s on country simply in order to keep slavery alive and well. This is the history of the rebel flag only to be adopted as a symbol of the KKK. For no other reason but the meaning of the Confederate flag/ Rebel and what it stood for. Many southerners like myself are disgusted by it and know that it flies above South Carolina state capitol as a reminder to try to keep the people in line. No Jewish person would be OK with the flag of the Third Reich flying so why should black people? I am not getting on anyone but some people don’t understand so i am simply explaining.
@#6 Personally, I’m finding it pretty hard to find a reason to not be in favor of these shorts. If only ALL stupid, ignorant and racist people came with this type of super convenient warning label that can be viewed from a safe distance – it would be so much easier to avoid them.
John Oliver on the confederate flag. If you support this flag, I highly suggest you watch this.
I basically said the same thing yesterday and it now has more dislikes than likes. It’s sad how uneducated the people fighting for this flag are. Just because your racist family/state thinks it’s a tradition to keep it about ISN’T a good enough reason to keep that shit around. But let’s be real, most of these viewers are living off welfare while they sit on SL all day, so I guess education isn’t to be expected.
Wow, I was with you until the welfare comment. You’re just as prejudiced as racist folks. I happen to be on “welfare” because I’m disabled, but I also happen to be quite intelligent and far from racist. I hope you see the irony in your insulting and baseless stereotyping, while you’re simultaneously condemning the ignorance of others.
I’m sorry to have triggered you. This wasn’t a diss on anyone who is on welfare, it was a diss to anyone who supports the flag, and in my experience, that is only a VERY specific type of person. And there is a huge part of SL who lives off welfare, and isn’t disabled. They choose to be a lazy leech on society while playing secondlife all day. And these people clearly are not educated. We see “secrets” about these type of people every week. Insulting someone doesn’t make you ignorant, it just makes you an asshole. No irony here.
“Insulting someone doesn’t make you ignorant, it just makes you an asshole. No irony here.”
I stand corrected. You are not ignorant, you are merely an asshole. Thank you for the clarification. 😉
Just my 2 cents…
I am not american, and i had to research the whole theme, and yes i see why people beeing intimated and angry about it.
I don’t defend that flag nor any racist thoughts.
But to say you have no education, because you don’t know all about this, its kinda rude to nonamericans.
It’s like saying: “Oh you don’t know about european history, and you don’t speak 4 languages, hell you have no education.”
No offense, but if you aren’t educated on the subject at hand, why would you feel the need to add your opinion to conversation at all? My comments are directed at those who do or think they understand, and choose to fight for something disgusting. This is pretty clearly not you.
I don’t think they’re saying that about people who honestly have no knowledge of this subject, but rather people who do know what it’s about, and yet choose to defend the flag anyway, and pretend it’s not racist. I’m sure nobody here is insulting you for not being familiar with the subject. <3
Don’t feel bad, I swear people like to dislike any comment that seems rational. Just wait, I’ll have 100 dislikes under this one.
If they were educated they wouldn’t be defending the flag. It’s kind of that simple, really.
Who is number 2 about???
I know..
What I dearly want to know is… who is number 3 about? Is it perhaps the shoe man?
Yawns ~~~ no more secrets about him please, he’s as boring as his shoes!
What makes you think #3 is relative to the shoe man? I guess it’s been a while since there were any secrets posted about him but I just don’t get the connection you seem to intimate.
This secret seems very juicy. I as well would love to know who it is about.
This has got to be one of the saddest websites I have ever seen, the fact that people come here and entertain it I find hilarious.
And before you come out with some kind of smart ass comment as to why I am here, My facebook page got spammed with links to this shit hole.
GG No Lifers
How would you know that people are going to question why you’re here? Unless you come here all the time so you know what to expect. 😉
Do you always follow spam links to random sites? You might want to stop doing that.
Sorry that happened lawl. When there is a loss of anonymity within this forum there will be a loss of posters. It’s not cool.
Sure it did.
So then remove said spam and go about your business?
No one even knows who you are lol
Doesn’t matter they just make it up
#1 – First off, I’m not sure if you realize there is time gap in Second Life vs Real Life. I did some math, (man that sucked) however, upon my findings approx. three months were spent with each family and that is with me shaving off two months since you said less than a year. I’m not sure if you’ve perhaps bumped your head or maybe just wanted to pick and prod over something that isn’t quite that serious but in SL it’s hard to even find a family you match with much less someone you’re taking months to try and fit in with. I’m not sure exactly how that was supposed to be some kind of dig? But Keep fishing buddy. Secondly, in the time I’ve known both of these kids which happens to be close to a year or a little less. They’ve never once acted any way inappropriate or brought their RL relationship status into their kid avis that would cause a redflag. If that were to ever happen, THEN there would be a huge issue. But they’re innocent just as kids should be and leave the relationship status in the REAL WORLD once they log into SECOND LIFE to play their avatars. And last but certainly not least…. before you sit back and THINK you know a situation or how things work I suggest you really stop looking from the outside in. “Godmom” didn’t have to come to ANY rescue. In fact they were wanted way before they were accepted into the family. Yet they kept trying to make it work with the families we’ve known them to be with over and over again and it just didn’t pan out. It happens. Basically your “secret” is full of shit. It was cute, I had a laugh.… Read more »
#5 is true. In fact if you go to their mainstore all of their older skins are now gone.
Want proof of even more?
https://gyazo.com/e277c84b9f05750b7c2f77ec1f55e414
https://gyazo.com/6bfd26da291822bb0db1b74560af219e
https://gyazo.com/f12e91315479b994ed4ed8de7e6f2209
https://gyazo.com/6f575f4bc2e39e01181a4e450757ed8f
From shadings, lips, eye parts. You name it. They quilted their skins together. And swore up and down they were “original”. Funny enough they are now using a template, with again questionable lips and a bad paste and blend job of their collarbone. There was a flickr up about them, but they said if they removed all from their store that it should go away too very hush hush. But honestly, they are still selling them on their marketplace so I hold no ill will to show proof of all of this. Even their comment to try and say it was ok for the watermark being there.
https://gyazo.com/96b62355c8d85b0fd3b93cf3669e85cf
They are caught with their hand in the cookie jar, and honestly they could give two shits about it. Then Shiny Shabby put out a notice about TOS. Funny how they helped quickly to get PumeC to make something new knowing their items previously had copybotted parts within them. So does that mean Shiny Shabby supports this? I’m not saying they do, but again I guess it’s not what you know but who you know right?
So besides the skins being ugly as sin (especially when you compare them to a quality one like Essences), they’re also shady? Great. I did wonder why all of a sudden they’re showing up in good events when A) I’d never heard of them before, and B) their quality is shit. Very disappointing. I hope the event organizers see this and stop letting them participate, though I’m not holding my breath.
wow. never heard of her store before, but i can see it all now based on the links. checked her flickr, she’s in a lot of good events too. shame.
I will have to defend Isa and Salvy on this and Elle the supposed ” forever sister ” who posted this is a tool and just made herself look stupid!!! All Isa and Salvy have ever done is help that girl.. Who cares if they are in a RL relationship they keep it RL and don’t live together but that’s no ones business Elle if you are reading this how about we air your dirty little secrets on this site and see how you like it….
/vent/rant/start: And ummmm… there is NO DIRTY laundry on me you tool… don’t come for me Ari… I actually do have some on you! *shoots milk from her nose for laughing so hard* Please YOU think YOU’RE the best SL MOM don’t make me choke on my milk… I wish you would “air dirty laundry” on me. You don’t even know me and neither do either of them, what they were my siblings for all of what 3 months? What will you say, that Ellie was the one to have “their” back when the they had issues with the mother at the time? That Ellie took them in and gave them a place to live and didn’t charge them a penny so stay with her. That when Ellie found amazing people (who are BOTH still in her life) that she spoke to them about it first… then after they both said they were cool with it, yet the only one who had a problem was isa? To think, the family I was in was torn apart by them two anyhow so um yea… no thanks I wouldn’t want any parts of you or them at this point. And not to mention Isa forced Salvy to not speak to his forever sister… not the other way around. So, fuck off and go blame someone else for y’all making it to this site.. /vent/rant/over
That’s funny, I seem to remember renting the place on my own in Olrich right after you had the final fight and making sure that you and Salvy both had rooms there..sure it was a cheap place, but whatever. You wanted to move in the other place and kept insisting you didn’t want any lindens but wanted us there too. The only time that changed was when you went crazy later, remember that night you were auto returning my stuff as I was picking it up & screaming in voice? Probably not, you were pretty intoxicated IRL. Hey, it happens.
Yeah, it was me that got mad at you. I made Salvy take my side! I admit it! But, all I’ve wanted since then is you out of my life 100 percent. I really hope this is the last time I have to bring anything about this up. I have no regrets on what I did and how I acted. Just please don’t twist the story (the family you were in was torn apart..whatttt?). Seriously. I was there. You can’t reinvent the past by telling it differently.
Grats on the family. We’re still in touch with anyone whose life we’ve shared…well, except you and now your Godmother. So, I guess what i’m trying to say is that when I check my ‘haters’, there’s a pretty short list.
Isa, I think your poor recollection of the events is where you FAIL miserably! YOU WENT CRAZY, I responded in kind. You removed me from my land, because there was 2 days left and I hadn’t had the chance to logon. I remember clearly and if I wanted to do an SL secret… my images would be all of the chats that we had that I took screenshots of… so um yeah, nice try and I have proof even of Salvy saying you were the one who was buggin. Yep, screenshots don’t like. And YOU were the one went all bitch mode on me so you got EXACTLY what you deserved. And correction, I was not drunk on alcohol I was drunk with fury at your audacity to talk to land owners at misthaven without my permission and had me removed. DAMN right I returned and deleted anything of yours I could.. YOU had already fucked up by then you dimwit. SO YOU NEED TO TAKE YOUR OWN ADVICE AND STOP TRYING TO REINVENT WHAT HAPPENED OR I WILL BE PETTY AND START SHARING SCREENSHOTS …. so um yeah. Check your haters, if I would put you on blast I’d DEF had shared all the screen shots. and don’t forget all the drama started AFTER you were adopted. AND FOR THE LAST TIME YOUR DRAMA WITH STARR STARTED WHEN I WAS WORKING IN SPAIN SO UM YEA, TRY AGAIN YOU ARE THE ONLY REASON THERE WAS EVER DRAMA SO CHOKE ON THAT AND DIE! YOU ARE THE ONLY PERSON I DONT LIKE ON SL… SO UM JUST BECAUSE I DONT LIKE YOU DOESN’T MEAN I’D GO SO FAR TO CREATE A virtual-secrets ON YOU AHAHAH but i see you made top of the list… someone ELSE you know doesn’t seem… Read more »
I’m not worried about screenshots. I do find it funny when they get threatened, though.
To set the record straight (and hopefully put this to rest): I completely own the part about having Salvy take my side, so that’s no secret. He hates conflict. As far as the Misthaven house, when I found out from you that you’d changed your mind about not renting it anymore, I immediately contacted the sim manager and was fixing the situation- just as I told you I would, all the while you were going nuts. You were never removed from any land, your objects were still there, it was a matter of the rental box booting everyone when the name was getting changed over. That’s basic SL rental boxes for you.
Speaking of screenshots, those chat log ones that you posted to FB long ago with our former mom you claim you had no drama with before me now seem to be removed. Very strange.
You were the cause of that entire drama with her. Lol my point proven. Thanks. Remember this was all due to how you all told me how horrible she was with you. Claiming she always made Salvy work on land etc. The drama had not one thing to do with me. I got involved to try and defend you and salvy and then was dragged into it all. So um yeah thanks for proving my point. Remember I was the one trying to fix the damage that was done when I was away. Don’t forget you guys were adopted basically right before I went to Spain. Hence my story not changing one bit. And I didn’t remove the post you likely just can’t access my page. Then again you must be stalking me to say that chat is removed. What you couldn’t find it in your stalking my fb. Hahaha more laughs more laughs. I can reshare and tag you but I could’ve sworn I’ve blocked you. Yet you stalking my page for that chat. I’ll send it to you anyway you want if you want to see it so bad. No need to stalk my fb. Trust me no one who knows me believes in had anything to do with this besides you 3 and your crew I’m sure. So um yeah this is not affecting me in any way. I’m laughing as you still trying to drag me onto your shit.
“SO CHOKE ON THAT AND DIE!” – Aren’t you being a bit over dramatic lol. You sound like you have some mental issues.
Oh no more death threats. Quick idiotgo hunt this person down lol
It was Kesseret who told you to cut it out when you made a death threat after being banned by Flickr for the stalking.
Last week the regular posters here also agreed to not be baited by you.
You really are fixated dear.
Bat shit crazy. LOL.
The only thing I have to say about this comment.. is I wouldn’t hide behind an anonymous alias.. if I had something to say to you, or accuse anyone of anything.. I would just come out and say it.. So please.. attacking anyone is nonsense, and childish, especially over a game.
If anyone wants to discuss anything about this, please feel free to contact me in world, and I’ll be more than happy to discuss this, as an adult.
Hah, didn’t even know this was here until someone told me so ummmm nope… sorry I am SUPER HAPPY with my family and have been! but THIS IS the ELLIE that was their former sister. I’ve always wished them both the best even sent them Christmas gifts last year. Check your haters and don’t blame me for this.
Ellie it was you we all know that shitty ass font you use for EVERYTHING.. It’s funny you sit here and claim it wasn’t you but this whole thing was a DEAD give away! You can’t be to happy if you are coming up with crap like this.. You are the only that claims that Isa and Salvy are money grabbers but let’s take a look at when Starr gave you a new computer because you have ” no money” you better check your closet before you try dragging someone elses out!!!! What you did crossed the line Ellie.. You know it that’s why you are over there sitting there like you are innocent…
Truly wish it was me I’d have done it better with chat screen shots. And I’m laughing hard now you all must still be thinking of me since I’m the first name came up. Yeah but no. Sorry but I’m too busy to be bothered. I proudly announce and claim my dislike for isabelle but I actually like Salvi so wouldn’t have included him had I done this. Sorry you can try to blame me for this but I’d gladly boast if I was the creator.
Ty to all for da suport, what a morning!
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=407152742802650&set=a.255908281260431.1073741829.100005237836232&type=1&theater
You were #1 because that’s the random order the pictures got put in, don’t get too excited. Really with this kind of excitement it sounds like you made the secret yourself.
Funny, for a split second… thought the same thing, seeing as was also the first to comment and post it all over. Remember Nero? No, not the dvd burning program, but the actual Nero the name for the software referenced? Things that make you go hmm.
I’m sure some don’t, so here’s an educational lesson for some. http://www.history.com/topics/ancient-history/nero
Quote:
Several classical sources place Nero on the roof of his palace during the fire, dressed in stage garb and singing from the Greek epic “The Sack of Ilium.” Rumors quickly circulated that the emperor had started the fire to clear land for an expanded palace complex on the Palatine Hill.
Whatever responsibility he actually bore for the disaster, Nero deflected attention by blaming members of the fledgling Christian religion for the fire. He ordered all manner of creative and brutal persecutions: Some were condemned to be dressed in animal skins and torn apart by dogs, while others were burned to death in nighttime pyres that provided light for the emperor’s garden parties.
I love how you copied and pasted the same generated answers to every social network you are on 🙂 and am now even pasting your posts here…you are really bathing in it and enjoying :D)
6: Is that creator American? If not, they might not understand the connotations of the confederate flag.
I don’t care for that flag but if someone is gonna go so far and make a secret about a store using that flag on a belt buckle, please go and make a big deal out of the other products that feature said flag that not so famous creators have made. KTHANXBAI! https://marketplace.secondlife.com/products/search?utf8=%E2%9C%93&search%5Bcategory_id%5D=&search%5Bmaturity_level%5D=GMA&search%5Bkeywords%5D=rebel+flag
Please do some research on this subject. More than just reading uneducated peoples rants on the flag being racist. The flag itself is not a symbolism of racism at all. Please, before insulting people, read read read. If you don’t know something is for sure, for the love of whatever you believe in, learn yourself. I’m attaching a few links for any of you that might be interested in facts…
http://www.debate.org/opinions/is-the-confederate-flag-racist
http://www.elon.edu/e-web/pendulum/issues/2005/04_07/opinions/flag.xhtml
http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/wonkblog/wp/2015/06/19/what-the-confederate-flag-really-means-to-america-today-according-to-a-race-historian/
https://today.yougov.com/news/2013/10/17/confederate-flag/
This goes for racists as well… stop using something that tied a nation together as a banner for your hatred. I personally wouldn’t use this flag for any reason, because there is a lot of negativity (not just racist issues) that this flag reminds people of. But it is not a symbol for racism… some people just try to make it one.
Tied a nation together? LMAO Time to get some history lessons on. The flag represented a tearing apart of the nation with the south’s attempt at secession. Or do you think the Civil War was all about harmony and acceptance?
History has a way of being white-washed to make it easier to swallow, but ignoring the fact that this flag represented treasonous and racist individuals is just plain ignorant.
Next you will be saying the Holocaust had nothing to do with genocide and the swastika is a symbol of Hitler just trying to tie a nation together……. one big happy nation family.
Yes, it is a flag of a nation (That does NOT exist anymore). Yes the Civil War was primarily about states rights v. federal rights. But the main issue (there were others but lets be realistic as hell – there was ONLY one that mattered to most of the South) was the states wanted to keep slavery and the federal government wanted to abolish slavery.
The ‘state v. federal issue is still a hot topic now in America, and always has been (roe v. wade, the legalization of marijuana, gun control just to name a few) and it will always be an issue until the end of time (or the end of America).
Until then – unless the flag is flown during re-enactments, museum presentations, or specific confederate monuments it’s really just a way to say you are a racist redneck. Sorry, but that’s the truth.
If I see a house here locally that has this flag on their property I know they are rednecks. If I go to the Manassas Battlefield (which would be the Battle of Bull Run if you are a Yankee) and see it at the museum there flying it’s just a museum piece.
Well said, Kess. I’d like to reemphasize your point that context is important. And in this context, as a casual clothing accessory, it unarguably falls under the classification of racist.
Even if your willful ignorance leads you to think it’s not a racist symbol, if you at least know that MANY PEOPLE DO see it as a racist symbol, then you should avoid it. I mean, there’s countless designs you could put on a belt buckle. Why on earth would you choose such an emotionally charged, controversial, divisive one? Why “go there”? You’ve gotta know that’s going to turn people away. So something makes you think that’s a risk worth taking. You can’t possibly take it that lightly, you’ve gotta know what’s going to happen when you make this item.
So that leads me to think either A) the creator genuinely had no idea what this flag meant, in which case I wonder how they knew about it enough to use it in the first place, or B) they themselves are racist and therefore don’t care how much it might hurt or upset their customers. I’m trying really hard to hope this is all a big misunderstanding but to be honest I’m having a hard time convincing myself of that. I very much hope the designer will respond to all this, and end the inevitable speculation.
But the confederate flag that people use today was NEVER officially adopted by The Confederacy. In fact, it’s something that would have been completely forgotten about (because there were actual confederate flags used during the civil war by the south) UNTIL the flag was resurrected as a propaganda tool to use in a presidential election in the early 1900’s by… wait for it… THE FUCKING KKK.
So yeah. You can sit here and link all your bullshit and convince yourself and your other hick family/friends that the flag isn’t a symbol of hate and racism in America, but you’re just wrong. Let it go. MOVE FORWARD SO THE REST OF THE COUNTRY CAN TOO. Stop fighting for things you don’t really know anything about. Educate yourself so the general public doesn’t have to embarrass you.
“As a people we are fighting to maintain the Heaven-ordained supremacy of the white man over the inferior or colored race; a white flag would thus be emblematical of our cause. … As a national emblem, it is significant of our higher cause, the cause of a superior race, and a higher civilization contending against ignorance, infidelity, and barbarism. Another merit in the new flag is, that it bears no resemblance to the now infamous banner of the Yankee vandals.”
When you cite sources to back you up, you probably should read them. After all, the historian interviewed in your third link you provided to bolster your opinion had this to say to people who think like you.
“I might tell them that they are delusional, or that they are refusing to look in the mirror, or that they can’t bring themselves to acknowledge what would probably be very painful for them to acknowledge, which is that by flying that flag, they are perpetuating the sense of rage and despair that leads a young man to walk into a church with a gun and shoot nine people.”
The rest of your citations are links to opinion polls. After all, only one third of Americans believe human beings evolved through a natural process. Opinions are not facts and that you can find a bunch of people who claim it’s not racist proves nothing. Many people also claim the n-word is not racist. Hell, the Wall Street Journal announced this week that institutionalized racism does not exist.
If this flag were only about honoring the heritage of the slave-mongering traitors of the past whose cornerstone was white supremacy and not racism now and forever, it would have been 1901 and not 1961 that South Carolina decided to fly it at its capitol building. The resurgence of the traitor’s flag is all about battling the Civil Rights movement and its renaissance in the 60s proves that beyond doubt.
Do you not understand how symbolism works?
A flag, by itself, is just a piece of fabric with marks on it. Society, history and culture are what give it meaning. So if society, history and culture are now saying something different to what they were saying 150 years ago, then the meaning of the flag has changed. And unfortunately it is now a big neon sign flashing RACIST. Sorry ’bout that. Maybe things wouldn’t have turned out that way if racists weren’t so terribly fond of it, who can say?
The general consensus in America, outside of pockets of the South, is that the confederate flag is used in a racist way, flown to intimidate black people and symbolize white supremacy or sympathy with the Confederacy. It might have an intended meaning which is different (the swastika is actually an ancient symbol of luck and can be found in historical landmarks predating Nazi Germany) but that’s the meaning that it’s come to have.
Erm… Its actually been polled that the ‘general consensus in America’ feels the confederate flag is not a racist symbol… the south being the highest against this, not for it (meaning the south had the highest numbers of people that feel the confederate flag is a racist symbol). Again, research people.
As for the Manji, it is still used today by people following Buddhism and Hinduism but no it does not stand for luck. The word swastika however does mean something about luck… lucky something or other. This again is another example of people taking something and twisting it to what its not. The symbol itself is used by many that have nothing to do with, and do not use it for an evil meaning.
Holy heck people are hell bent on finding a problem with something and being angry at someone for some reason or another.
It really does not matter how many white people think the Confederate flag is just spiffy. It is not meant to intimidate and coerce them. It is targeted at black people, intended to tell them they are not welcome, they are less than, they are inferior. So they get to decide how it makes them feel without any input from the racists who insist on waving it in their face.
Amen. I don’t go around randomly asking my black friends what they think of the Confederate flag, hadn’t even crossed my mind before this, but from what I’ve been reading in articles lately, most African Americans DO find it offensive, they DO see it as a symbol of racism and hatred, and indeed slavery. They’ve been saying as much to the national media outlets. A lot of non-black people feel the same way, but like Casja and Bling said, that takes a backseat to how the victims of such hatred perceive it. If they feel targeted by it, then it’s wrong. Just like men don’t get to dictate what’s an appropriate way to treat a woman; if she feels harassed, that’s all that matters. “The axe has a much shorter memory than the tree.” It’s the tree’s experience that matters most. Easy for the axe to dismiss, doesn’t make it go away though.
Exactly. If a majority of African-Americans find something racist then I can’t quite understand how anyone can have the audacity to tell them they’re wrong because blah blah something something Lincoln didn’t even like you that much so shush. People who have experienced racism get to define what it is, not the perpetrators. Seriously, wtf?
And if 32% don’t think it’s racist then that’s great, it means there’s one less hurtful thing in the world for them, but it doesn’t change the experience of the other 68%.
@Na you are incorrect about that poll. It is only considered not racist to white Americans, around 68 percent of black Americans say it is racist. The only reason i even know this is given the recent church shooting, the kid who committed those murders flew that flag. So this very topic is all over your news channels if you actually want to learn about it.
There is documentation of what I wrote for the poll issue, scroll up for my links. Please, do link where you got your ‘facts’ from. As for the child that is all over the news for killing people, he also used a gun… is it the guns fault? Does the gun stand for hatred as well? Just because certain people TRY to make something mean something other than what it was made for, doesn’t make it true to that meaning. You are certain the flag stands for racism because that what was drilled into your head. It is also a fact that Lincoln stated he didn’t care if slavery ended or not, for Knowyourhistory. http://www.abrahamlincolnonline.org/lincoln/speeches/greeley.htm
Also, while slavery was a big part of the start of the war, it was not the only cause… yet another resource http://www.historynet.com/causes-of-the-civil-war
Don’t get me wrong, I am not standing up for slavery in any way, shape or form. What I am standing up for is an artist who has been attacked for using a flag. The artist is not racist and I am sure did not use this flag to support racism. Its you as an individual that has it set in your mind and it’s each of you spouting ‘RACISM’ that are making it so. It’s so easy to witch hunt when you aren’t fully learned in a subject. You see something and automatically feel threatened… which is common. I’m just trying to open each of your eyes to see you are making the threat, it wasn’t created by anyone but each of you attacking.
If you don’t want people to think you’re racist, it’s a good idea to do some rudimentary research to ensure you don’t use racist symbols in your work. And if you don’t want to offend people, it’s actually a good thing when people let you know that you’ve done something offensive, because then you can avoid doing it in the future and it won’t end up costing you sales.
In short, you’re really not helping the designer by standing up for their ‘right’ to look stupid / bigoted / offensive and you’re not exactly doing yourself any favours either.
Read the Articles of Secession for the southern states. They each wrote one listing their reasons for seceding. You know what, all they talk about is slavery and white supremacy. Read the Cornerstone speech and then come back and tell me it was oh-so-much more complicated. Of course, you don’t even read the articles you provide the links for, so I doubt you will read anything anyone provides you.
Nonetheless, even though I know you won’t read them, here they are: http://www.civil-war.net/pages/ordinances_secession.asp
From the Cornerstone Address about the founding of the CSA:
“Our new Government is founded upon exactly the opposite ideas; its foundations are laid, its cornerstone rests, upon the great truth that the negro is not equal to the white man; that slavery, subordination to the superior race, is his natural and normal condition.”
http://teachingamericanhistory.org/library/document/cornerstone-speech/
I see the know it all has showed up.
The flag was flown during the American Civil war by the South.
That war was started because of slavery. The president of America at the time wanted to abolish slavery (the North). The Southern states wanted to keep slavery (the South).
Ergo, the flag is known as a symbol of racism.
Read about it here: https://en.wikipedia.org/?title=American_Civil_War
The South demanded states rights, and weren’t getting them. Congress favored the industrial states of the North and when the production of cotton doubled and tripled (thanks to the Cotton Gin), Congress passed laws that did not allow cotton owners to sell to another country – it could only be shipped to the manufacturers in the North. The finished products were so heavily taxed that most people in the Southern states couldn’t afford them. If the grievances from the South had been listened to – they would never have seceded from the Union and the Civil War would never have been fought. With the exception of John Brown’s raid on Harper’s Ferry, slavery wasn’t in the forefront until after the Battle of Antietam in September 1862 – a full 2 years into the war. Most Southerner’s were not slave owners nor did they own plantations – they were farmers who worked their land with their families. These were the ones who were unable to afford the finished cotton products from the Northern factories and THIS is what most of them went to war for. It was only after Antietam that Abraham Lincoln decided to free the slaves in order to punish those states for continuing the war effort. The war started over preserving the United States and economic issues. That said, the abolition of slavery was the only good thing to come from the war. Families torn apart, men women and children abused, human beings bought and sold as property, people worked to death – and doesn’t it still go on around the world in what we now call “human trafficking”? There will always be a rallying point for hatred – a flag, swastika, gun, religion – I think the list must be endless. It is the heart of the… Read more »
You glossed over some very important aspects.
1) all the cotton came from slave labor
2) thanks to the cotton gin that was invented by a slave but the owners took credit at the time.
3) with the cotton gin increasing production of cotton and allowing the southern plantation owners to expand. Which means more slavery.
The whole economic well being of the south was based on slavery. The two can not be separated.
I only meant to make the point that slavery was not a starting point for the Civil War- it was secession and economics – specifically the economics of cotton.
The claim of a slave having invented the cotton gin has been accepted by many historians but it’s impossible to prove. I always heard the story that a widow, Catharine Greene had done most of the work on it. As with slaves, women were not allowed to hold patents so Whitney did the filing and got the credit.
I see no mention of the benefits to the Northern states in regards to cotton and slavery. Not only did plantations in the South keep slavery active, Northern merchants benefited as well. Slave-produced cotton “brought commercial ascendancy to New York City.
On the eve of the Civil War, New England’s economy, so fundamentally dependent upon the textile industry, was inextricably intertwined, as (Ronald) Bailey puts it, “to the labor of black people working as slaves in the U.S. South.”
“I only meant to make the point that slavery was not a starting point for the Civil War- it was secession and economics – specifically the economics of cotton.”
Pre-Civil War Economics especially the economics of cotton involved slavery. You can try to downplay it as much as you like. Slavery was a major part of southern economics and even more so regarding the economics of cotton.
I also find it intereting how when you referring to the south and their reasons for succession you downplay the role of slavery. But when it comes to the advantages that slavery played to the north you don’t down play it so much. All of a sudden its a major portion.
Truth: Every modern advanced progressive culture has prospered on slave labor, even now.
I have lived in the South for most of my life, I’m not prejudicial and I certainly hold no love for the Confederate Flag in regards to it being used as a symbol for Racist claims. The history behind it and it’s use as a hate symbol certainly mar it’s appeal to be used on branding and items for sale because of the intent behind the ‘symbol’ itself. I work with many youths from different ethnic backgrounds, and I would never encourage them to harbor or hold a Confederate Flag above them as it heralds to a dark time in our past here in the South especially. I would encourage them instead to look past the the symbolism and seek the truth about the situation. Read up and clear themselves from the ignorance they wade in. I don’t think this creator meant any harm from their branding their clothing with a ‘racist’ symbol’ and let’s be honest, the Confederate Flag can be linked to some very prejudicial hate groups.However it’s still a symbol of Hate and as a creator I’d never link my brand with something so obscene and hateful as that Flag. That’s just me. I speak from experience and justifiable defiance of the norms in Southern Society. I had foreign exchange students that were my friends in college that couldn’t afford to fly home for Christmas ,so my parents offered to let them stay the Christmas break with us. We were shopping in my home town and we were called the worse racial slurs you can imagine because we dared to bring a Chinese and Jamaican into our home and live with them as our friends. That night a Confederate Flag was left on my car with all it’s windows busted out as a message to not ‘flaunt’… Read more »
That was indeed very well-written. Lincoln even said, paraphrased, “If I could end this war without freeing a single slave, I would.” Slavery was just a weapon against the South; it wasn’t actually his focus. Nor was it the original focus of the war, as HistoryX2 very eloquently explained.
If it had been left at that, the Confederate flag would be merely a symbol of history and heritage and all that stuff people claim it is today. Unfortunately, it was imbued with much more meaning than that in the mid 20th century, when Southerners got fired up about the Civil Rights movement. And sadly that new meaning is the one that has stuck with our national collective consciousness ever since, to the point that it has almost obscured the original meaning.
Similar with the Swastika. Sure, it might have meant peace originally, and “still does” in a certain regard, but the negative connotation -far- outweighs that, in terms of public association. I just think symbols like that are really unwise to put on merchandise, if you don’t expect an uproar, and to lose a lot of customers. Just my two cents.
Quoted more fully for understanding:
“My paramount object in this struggle is to save the Union, and is not either to save or to destroy slavery. If I could save the Union without freeing any slave I would do it, and if I could save it by freeing all the slaves I would do it; and if I could save it by freeing some and leaving others alone I would also do that. What I do about slavery, and the colored race, I do because I believe it helps to save the Union;”
His objective was to save the union. The union could not be saved by the continuance of slavery.
I actually think you wrote very well, and it was nice to see a different outline and your perspective.
So not going to tear in to you, we keep that sort of thing for the crazy folks who chance their arm here!
Thanks Indigo!
The war was about a lot more than slavery, actually.
But the bottom line remains that the flag is a symbol of slavery and anti-American sentiments (by which I mean The Union, aka America as we know it).
I had to laugh at the links you provided. Take the 3rd one. You obviously did not read it because the response from that historian to your assertion that the flag is not racist is this:
“I might tell them that they are delusional, or that they are refusing to look in the mirror, or that they can’t bring themselves to acknowledge what would probably be very painful for them to acknowledge, which is that by flying that flag, they are perpetuating the sense of rage and despair that leads a young man to walk into a church with a gun and shoot nine people.”
That’s a direct quote from the article you posted. And you know, just because ignorance of the flag’s history is widespread does not make it acceptable. A majority of Americans claim they don’t believe in evolution, too.
I’ m not American, and as far as I’m concerned that flag is the equivalent of a big neon sign flashing RACIST. I also would not dream of putting any insignia on anything without checking whether it was offensive first. So nope, no excuses.
American or not…inform yourself BEFORE using ANY flags or stuff like that lol
Same for signs etc ..you can’t just slap shit on a shirt in SL and then say “Oh I didn’t knew!”
Honestly i had to google it, tho well i’m not american.
I can understand that a bit…
But why i never hear a complain when someone creates SS-Uniforms or WW2 stuff, and hell there is a lot,
even third reich flags..
How would people react if that would be a swastika…?!
There actually ~is~ a lot of racist things in Second life and no one really says anything about it.. I am wondering if this is half peoples personal opinions (history etc) and half a personal attack. I had a t shirt with “flags in history” on it, and this was one of them. As long as it was not made with any sort of blasphemy intended I really do not see the problem with it. A lot of people grew up in the deep south, and still have respect for what the flag meant before all the bullshit and racist shit. Remember that at least 50% or more of the population that own these flags display them in honor of an ancestor that fought and died in the Confederate Army. And are in no way racist. It’s the other percentage that have given the flag a bad reputation. “”All symbols are liable to multiple interpretations but this is unique in its power and ability to inflame passions on all sides, and the volume of interpretations and preconceptions about it make it unique in American history,” says John Coski, author of The Confederate Battle Flag: America’s Most Embattled Emblem. He has even seen it displayed in Europe, where it has become shorthand for “rebel”.” Direct quote. And it’s true. The swastika was and still is a sign of peace , but because of a few (albeit many) idiots it is now a symbol of hate. I highly doubt that Addams owner meant for it to be a message of hate. I think you should all keep that in mind. And from what my real life sister says they are really nice shorts. If I was in Second life enough days in a week I would likely buy them for myself. If… Read more »
“And from what my real life sister says they are really nice shorts.”
Oh, okay then. As long as they’re nice shorts.
I think it’s that there’s a difference between using something with heavy racist connotations casually in a piece of normal clothing and making a uniform or flag to recreate a historic time period. There are WWII reenactors who wear Nazi uniforms to show what those battles were like, and people who use those to do similar things in SL, as well as US Civil War reenactors. However, you wouldn’t stick a swastika on a belt buckle, and people who wear confederate flags are often racists and white supremacists.
Don`t get me wrong, but isn’t that flag historical a battle flag?
And if we talk about wearing those as example as an belt, are often racist.
So if we put it that way, i say everyone who wears any nazi symbol (Runes, Swastika and so on) are racist, because that is National Socialism.
https://en.wikipedia.org/?title=Nazi_symbolism
“As a people we are fighting to maintain the Heaven-ordained supremacy of the white man over the inferior or colored race; a white flag would thus be emblematical of our cause. … As a national emblem, it is significant of our higher cause, the cause of a superior race, and a higher civilization contending against ignorance, infidelity, and barbarism. Another merit in the new flag is, that it bears no resemblance to the now infamous banner of the Yankee vandals.” – William T Thompson, 1863, creator of the Rebel Flag Or “Stainless Banner” as he liked to call it.
It’s racist. It was meant to be racist.
That says it all. Thank you for making it clear to those who, understandably, might not know better. People in the rest of the country and world find it hard to believe but it’s true that a lot of people in the South are still stuck in the 1860s. They still see themselves as confederate states. Let me put it this way: when I was a child in Texas, we learned more about the Lone Star State in school than about the rest of the country combined, and my friends liked to play “master and slave” with the same nonchalance with which other kids would play teacher or doctor or cops-and-robbers. We moved out of the South at one point during my childhood. When we went back to visit a few years later, my mother asked these same friends how things were at their school (the one I’d attended). My former friend sighed in disgusted and replied, “Oh you know, the n****rs are still trying to take over.” The Confederacy – and all it stood for – is still deeply embedded in the identity of these people.
Addams’ item came out before last week’s South Carolina massacre, so it wasn’t in response to that, but the massacre is a timely reminder of why this sort of hateful shit has no place on casual accessories, IRL or ISL. I’ve been a huge fan of Addams – up until this moment. I will not give them a single L$ until they publicly provide a believable explanation and apology, with the promise not to do such a thing again. That’s giving them the benefit of the doubt that they honestly didn’t know what this flag meant. I really hope that was the case…
The problem is how the confederate flag represented in history. It represented heritage that was founded on hatred and exploitation of a large population. The flag is apart of history and it should be displayed in museums to educate but to use it as an accessory afterthought is what is wrong here.
Wasn’t Taketomi (forgive me if I’m wrong here) the hair store that went into rebranding after they depicted Hilter staches, and haircuts?
Lyric, you’re thinking of the right store, but they didn’t rebrand, they still make hair as Taketomi. With 524,839,671 different prices.
What’s the deal with Pumec? I am looking at her flickr and her stuff is cute. Are you saying she is stealing content?
Do you not see the vive9 fiore watermark in the Template? Took me a minute too but look closely. It’s imprinted in the texture
She doesn’t do men’s skins so I haven’t tried them.
Has the poster actually informed the creators so they can deal with it?
lol really? we made it on SL secrets!!! #1 at that too!!! We spend our own money on ourselves, we clothe ourselves and never had any issues with our previous parents and actually still have a close relationship with them. And if any of our friends in SL ever needed lindens, someone to talk to or anything we’d always help out. Our last parents had 2 deaths in RL in a matter of a week and quit SL so our first and only God mother Aribella Dinzeo took us in as her own now. Which is what a God mother is supposed to do.
bunch of sick , depraved fucks
If it’s child avs dating on Sl that’s gtoss. If it’s people playing kids and dating RL I see no problem which is it. ?
I don’t take part in family role play but I find it really silly how people can’t separate what you do in your child avatar DURING ROLE PLAY and how you live your “true life”. Who cares if you two are dating outside of the family role play, as long as you keep that separate from your in family dynamics.
I play P&P RPGs in RL and really …I still think its weird to play bro and sis in SL and then later that night you get the sexy on in RL lol
I can’t really wrap my head around family roleplay as a whole but, I try to be accepting and not try to judge who do participate in roleplay. Unfortunately I run into people who do roleplay as second life children and then “grow up” to participate in daddy dom fetish areas on the grid. There are going to be creeps who ruin innocence for all the non-guilt unfortunately.
Oh noooos it not ok to say the truth about the kid avs here, if you do they will hunt down someone in SL and say its you, then they will link RL pics of that person and try to body shame them. You must only say child play is normal RP fun and not creepy “sit on my knee deary” pedo shit. Be careful, they get real personal about it, hits a really raw nerve.
Who the fuck cares? Your avatars are separate. If you want to be sexy on an adult avatar with other adult avatars, it’s your SL and there’s absolutely nothing – ZERO – against it in the TOS. It’s fuckheads like you who made me leave the family community. Bunch of judgey shitholes who can’t stand the idea that people have multiple sides to themselves and don’t want to spend every minute of the day being 100% PG.
I never said it was against TOS and If you left the RP family community because of “fuckheads” like me. Then bye, felicia! I’m sure the community was better off without you anyway. I’ll judge and side eye all I want if I see behavior that is creepy and questionable.
Because having any sex in SL ever is “creepy” and “questionable”. Yeah, good luck with that, bitch.
I believe you read my first comment wrong quick draw. No one is hating on anyone who has separate avatars for sex and for play. What I was describing is I’ve witnessed: residents that actually RP as a child and when they are ready they “grow up” to finish their acts as a adult to finish the perversion. It had nothing to do with being sexual on the grid itself. I have group memberships to a few sex sims in second life. So yes, you read my comment wrong.
This is what ALTS are for, duh. Multiple sides of yourself.
Yeah, that’s what I meant by separate avatars. However, hiding it on an alt that no one else knows about only feeds the idea that you’re doing something wrong. Having a sexual side to yourself on an adult avatar which doesn’t involve your kid avatar is not wrong. It’s never been wrong, and it never will be, despite what the desperate hens want.
*edit family dynamics
Elle Couerblanc- Thank you <3 Yeah, we have never hid the fact that we are a RL couple. Nor would we ever do anything creepy while playing on kid avies. It's just a way to play the game without the adult stuff..and to be part of a family!
Still in shock I'm in an SL secret! I've been reading this site since the beginning! LOL. Haters gonna hate hate hate. But they should really make their identity less obvious. Glad you're still thinking about us, honey!
Why does it matter what their real life name is? What does that have to do with Second Life? It’s no one’s business what her real life name is and you are pretty pathetic to attempt to bring something like that up on a public forum. Second Life and real life, have nothing to do with each other unless you are personally invited into the alter by the person involved. Just rude.
Over react much? Not like I asked for her last name or where she lived etc. She reminded me of someone I knew about 7 years ago and that is why I asked. geesh chill out.
Still no reason to ask something so personal. She doesn’t have to tell you if that is her name. She owes you nothing. Second life is not part of real life in any way.
Yes, she doesn’t have to reply, but she did. So what’s it to anyone but the 2 involved?
Shrugs, major over reaction she only asked a question on what her name was. Nobody is really anon, so best to be accountable for your actions and treat others how you would if they were sat next to you chatting. Your own self worth will thank you for it in the long run anyway.
Doesn’t seem to matter around here, admin allows rl to be linked it would seem
You were doing well, don’t ruin it.
-Lourdes
unless it’s about someone they think is their friend. Key word “think”
Don’t know who either of these kids are, but I think whats most concerning mention on this is the fact of so many families. Many kid scammers out there and people are now taking notes. tsk tsk
How are they scammers? Where is the proof? Otherwise this “secret” is just slander.
So you read this site “from the beginning” and am now oh so in shock that you are in it and people “hate, hate, hate”?
Guess it was ok when it wasn’t you hm?
D’aawww *pats*
Yeah.. its all good! 🙂
It’s cute how people are picking on them for being an RL couple playing SL as siblings when no one comments on Rory and Heath doing the same thing and they’re loved by everyone.
you clearly arent in the family rp community. rory and heath are untouchable because they are popular (but have also been thru lots of families). these kids? not popular, so criticized.
gilmans were into the incest thing for a while to but they are also popular because camp.