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SLSecret: Week 310
· Lourdes Denimore ·
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I wholeheartedly agree with #6. My site was fairly new and I only had a couple thousand views so far, so imagine my reaction when I went to apply to include an event on my site, and they required – not preferred but *required* – a minimum of 30,000 views. I know I’m new to this but I can’t help but think that’s pretty high, and it communicated to me that they wanted only the most well-known blogs, regardless of quality. Since my site was about quality over quantity, I didn’t bother with this event. I see it as them losing out on free advertising. Not to mention, not everyone who wants to cover your event is a fashion blogger. Some are event reporters, and they’re not going to fit into your narrow box. And then when someone *does* meet your insane criteria, providing screenshots (because apparently our word isn’t enough, which is insulting too), and you still don’t accept them – or even tell them they’re *not* accepted… then you just look like a donkey tail.
#6 Yep. Totally Agree. All the ‘rules’ and ‘regulations’ take the fun out of blogging (and even being in SL). Once a blogger begins to feature items out of obligation, then forget it because your credibility is gone.
I want to blog things I like, not blog some butt-ugly thing because somebody’s arbitrary rules say I have to blog 1 item from each release every 2 weeks and blog ‘x’ number of items per month… *and* keep records of this I can pass to the creator at their demand…*and* record my Flickr stats *and* my blog hits.
On the other hand I can understand creators not wanting to feel as though they are giving their pixels away for free, but all these rules and legal agreements? Keep your pixels and spare me.
Yeah when a blogger’s post ends every other item with ‘tysm ____’ and they seem to just make random ass outfits around those items while announcing new sponsors each week I stop following. They’re just an advertisement now.
I’d rather follow someone who posts when they find something they like than someone who is just a billboard.
Would be nice if a few more sellers would show a little integrity, and stop bribing people to blog about them. If the price for the item is too high for bloggers to take it on otherwise, maybe the product ain’t all that.
#6 I agree with part of what you are saying, it is infact a hobby and I think its quite unfair for events too pretty much ask exactly what lourdes is talking about, everything but the pay stub! Bloggers, dedicated good bloggers should be treated with respect. Their photos are an art! That said, while I love having bloggers, I have never felt like I needed them to be successful. I’ve never depended on bloggers to get my product out there, actually I didn’t really bother with them until this year and I do well. Not for lack of enjoying reading blogs, I just never felt the need, and it never effected, better or for worse, how my store ran. Similarly with events, I wont send to most blog groups, but ill hand pick bloggers I read or like, to toss items too. But it isn’t because I think they’ll bring traffic in droves, but more so because I am a fan of their work as much as they seem to be a fan of me. I love seeing how things are styled in a lot of the photos, which in turn helps inspire me with new ideas. I guess I use bloggers differently, I don’t need them for business, but I think of them more like inspiration, and to keep tabs on whats trending in SL. So for the bloggers I keep, they range from high traffic, to minimal traffic, to none at all, because the content matters to me far more than the traffic.
#6 I’m not a blogger, I’m a designer and I completely agree with you. I’ve always felt that designers need bloggers way more than bloggers need designers. Bloggers would find a way and something to blog without us. Why would someone want to be blogged by someone that feels they HAVE to do it, rather than wants to do it. Better to be blogged every once in a while by someone who really likes something, and it works for their photo concept. Someone that feels pressured and has to follow a list of rules probably isn’t going to do as good of a job representing the designers items.
Designers and events that keep adding hoops for bloggers to jump through, are going to end up making it so there are no bloggers willing to blog them. Bloggers will realize the prestige and appreciation isn’t in who or what event they blog for. It’s in a photo they are proud of, presenting something they actually like, and got enjoyment from blogging. And when there are no bloggers willing to jump through your hoops, stats are going to matter anyways.
*aren’t going to matter.
@ #6 I want maximum exposure for my product, you can take the prettiest pictures on SL, but if no reads your blog, it does me absolutely no good. I think it’s great that events/designers are finally catching on and doing this. All those Plurk slamous bloggers who “only blog one thing per event” and have “no traffic” are going to die like the dinosaur.
Re #6. I only apply to blog for content creators/events that I already blog heavily and/or whose items I enjoy and would continue to blog by purchase regardless if I was selected as an official blogger or not. I don’t really feel it’s asking a lot for an event or blogger manager to want to look at my blog or Flickr page to see how frequently I blog. Page hits are really misleading, as some are bots and others are weird unrelated Google search hits, but if they ask, I would share that information too. I think the biggest compliment is when a content creator/event manager/blogger manager notices that I love their work and simply opts to send me items as they are released. It saves me a little leg work and often means that I will make an effort to use the new items as soon as I can get them into a post. Yes it saves me some Lindens too in the long run, which means I am able to make my looks more polished and my posts well rounded with better shoes/accessories/hair etc. to compliment the new items. I am still spending the same amount in SL, but able to showcase items better. As someone who is happily “Sponsor” free, I have ultimate freedom on my blog, and that is why I love to do it. If someone is looking to ‘Sponsor’ someone, and I am not even sure whether that includes any other perks such as payment or a parcel of land to use as a dressing room, or what have you, then I suppose the more stringent the requirements would be most realistic. Essentially, it is still the blogger who has the ultimate say in what they are willing to do, work wise, on their… Read more »
I have noticed that the biggest/more popular stores and events don’t nitpick with all the extra requirements. Its always the smaller events and lesser known stores that want every damn thing but a copy of your pay stub on their blogger apps.
I don’t necessarily think #1 is about me, but it makes me think about someone who used to be in my life. If it is, I wonder too, K, but it just didn’t work between us.
Oh how I wish a particular someone thought about me this way, I don’t think I will ever get over the one I loved and lost. Some things that we want, no matter how much we try, just seem to fall apart. Knowing he is out there and at least thinking of me would mean so much, even if we can’t be together again.
You never know. Maybe he is. I wonder the same about a particular someone. Wondering if she is thinking about me. If you were close, chances are that he still does.
that face edited in? Spooky